May 6, 2025

Highlights of Season 1 Part 2

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Send us a text In this Part 2 Highlights video, we're giving you a front-row seat to some of the funniest, most honest, and unforgettable moments from our latest episode. From real talk about life over 50 to hilarious stories you won’t believe, Timeless & Unfiltered keeps it raw, relatable, and 100% unapologetic. Whether we’re diving into dating, hot flashes, friendships, fashion, or just surviving this wild ride called midlife — we’re keeping it real and making you laugh along the way! ...

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Chapters

00:00 - Timeless and Unfiltered Highlights Introduction

00:34 - Dating, Relationships and Accountability

05:35 - Communication and Adult Conversations

10:34 - Midlife Body Changes

13:20 - Sex and Hot Flashes

16:38 - Periods, Menopause and Hilarious Goodbyes

21:25 - Hygiene Myths and Bathroom Tales

28:15 - Final Farewells to Periods

Transcript
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You've loved Timeless and Unfiltered to this point, and we can't wait to share more.

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Today, we're giving you the best moments of what we shared thus far Enjoy.

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This is Lagra.

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This is Stephanie.

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This is Cherie and this is Ivanya.

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And this is Evania, and this is Timeless and Unfiltered, where we are spilling the tea on midlife.

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one laugh at a time when I think I've said that before I don't mind approaching somebody, so that may be a part of it too, but I'm not, I'm, I'm just not falling to that.

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I'm not falling into that thing about what Atlanta look like and what the other people women are doing, because I just think that we give the keep center receiver but the other person we will.

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We'll go after another woman and say what she's doing, but we never sit back and look at what the person who's a receiver.

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They're coming up, they gotta come after your man and what is he doing?

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And how did they get his number?

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His number didn't jump in their damn pocket or phone.

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But because we don't want to deal with it, the accountability of holding that MFA responsible.

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We don't want to be responsible for holding him accountable.

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So we go jump on the other person and they got something to do with it.

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Actually, they don't owe me shit.

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They don't owe me anything.

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You owe me something and I'm not coming after you.

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I'm not trying to figure out what you're doing when I don't feel comfortable or safe it's time for me to go.

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It's just that simple atlanta or anywhere else.

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I don't think I've ever, I don't think I don't think I have ever gone through his stuff.

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Yeah because, why, never right, right.

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Well, I'm gonna do call her up and say hey, I found your number in your phone what People do?

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I've never.

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People never see me swear.

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I've never.

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And it's the truth.

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It's like you said.

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People still come up to me oh, you married.

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Yes, are you happy?

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What?

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People are bold.

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They do, do that.

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Yeah, they will ask you, they don't care they don't care.

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But when you're I, I feel like I'm not married either, but I feel like when your relationship is strong, even in dating, if y'all have something as strong as that, you're committed to or you really care about this person, then you really care about their emotions, and that comes with safety.

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That's what feeling safe, feel like Like you're, we're here together and I don't have to worry.

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And the second those feelings come up or something's going on.

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I don't have to do, but that comes with mature conversations with somebody.

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Right.

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So when you're having mature conversations and you're dating or you decide whatever you're going to do, y'all do know, as women, we could be seeing somebody and then after a while we just assume we, they, whatever, and they never even ask us.

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You know, there's a lot of assumptions, but once and I always say we just doing this till we don't, until somebody asks the other person like we gotta have that conversation, we have to have the adult conversation, right, right.

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And then, once you do that, you have to feel secure and safe and be.

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This is what it is, and as an adult, when it's not anymore, then you have to be an adult and let's have a conversation to move this along.

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What are we?

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doing?

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What are we doing?

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People just don't do that.

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It's communication.

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We don't communicate like we should.

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Well, that's why I think friendships to build a friendship first, is the foundation.

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Yes, and I build friendships with everyone that I've dated to where I don't have like real bad breakups.

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They're real amicable and I'm like yeah, this ain't, this ain't working out for me.

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I release you out of love.

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I can see her.

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We just yeah, and so that's when they're well.

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You have abandonment issues because of your past and I'm like, oh friend, you throwing up what's going on?

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like, don't, don't do that and it's not to have abandonment issues.

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I'm just not gonna keep putting up with your shit at the end of the day and I release you.

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I love and I I'm still cool with a lot of my exes.

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I we still have conversations because I just don't have bad breakups.

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I really communicate as an adult, but I like what you said.

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We're just.

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What did you say?

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We're doing this until we're not.

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Until we're not, yeah, until we're not.

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Until we're not, until, we're not, until, we're not, until, we're not.

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Until we're not feel like we're not meshing and this ain't going anywhere.

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Hey, let's have a conversation, and I have adult conversations and they're uncomfortable.

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A lot of times they just sitting there tapping.

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Can't believe you doing me like this, hey.

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I mean me and Anthony have gone through phases where we didn't talk.

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I mean he worked that night, I worked during the day and it would just be Ships passing in the night, just right, and just be like like you said.

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Then you got to be an adult, say okay.

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What's going on now?

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What are we doing?

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Right, Like what?

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What?

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Let's talk.

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So who's usually?

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the bigger person, you or him?

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Who's the bigger person you mean?

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I feel like I'm the one that always has to back down, Because I'm like rawr and Anthony will sit there like Real calm and then you feel crazy Like dang he calm, dang okay, because he's not going to Dang, and it used to be a place where I yelled a lot and then I stopped and looked and I was like he doesn't hear me, okay, okay, I can't hear when you yell yeah.

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Yeah.

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So then I stopped.

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And even my son had a situation where he upset me and I nothing.

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And for days my son was like I'm gonna need you to yell at me, cuss me out something ain't right, something I don't like.

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This I don't like this.

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You not saying that that's like danger, right?

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There right and it would.

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I got to a point now where I'll say you know, the warning is okay, you start running when I say all right now because, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not.

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And that drives him crazy.

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And he's like Cheryl, say something to me, what?

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what would you?

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like me to say oh, they hate that.

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I ain't got nothing.

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No, we in trouble.

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I have a question now that we're talking, that we're talking, my wheels are spinning.

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Now, my wheels are spinning, so you know you'll hear therapists or people talk about.

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Well, everybody, the ultimate goal is to get married.

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Right so why, are you with somebody?

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Why are you doing that If y'all don't plan on getting married?

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You see that a lot on TikTok, Instagram and all of that stuff.

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But first of all, I mean, everybody is not looking to get married, but the question is when you're in this dating realm, isn't that something that you think that should be discussed?

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If that's what your ultimate goal is, it's not wasting time, right?

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Yes, that's like I know you want your girl.

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Saying deaf partner is being that.

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You want your deaf buddy.

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Yeah, that's a conversation that you're having, I'm fine yeah, okay, yeah, I was just curious about that yeah, and my current one was like oh, I don't know one give me.

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And I'm like, so okay, we basically gonna do this till it's done till you're not till I'm not yeah, but there's no surprise, yeah, you're gonna be single don't okay yeah, I have those conversations yeah.

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I let them know I'm dating with a purpose and this is my intention.

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What are yours?

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oh, I know okay, whatever exercise you can do, ladies, please, but yeah.

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I haven't had the the sneeze and I can't hold it like I used to.

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Yeah, so if I say, oh, I gotta pee, it can wait just no, it can't let me go and go to the bathroom.

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I'm a camel, I can hold mine forever that's the one, unless you sneeze but and I went to the doctor not told the doctor I feel like I walk around smelling like little pissy.

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So he didn't know he was like I don't know girl.

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Yes, he looks like Prince, he's so little and cute.

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And so when he left the nurse she's a woman of our age, she's like that's because we're not emptying our bladder fully.

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So she said, when you go to the bathroom and pee, she said, because you always have maybe like two or three drops that you didn't get out so she was like you lean forward and squeeze.

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I do that them and see I I didn't know that and she said that's why you'll smell pee.

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And she said because you might have two, two to three little drops left that you didn't get out.

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So she said lean over and squeeze.

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And she said you hear them little things yeah, you do, and then you'll be fine, I was like nobody.

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I never well, I've never heard that.

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Yeah, I do every time that I use the bathroom.

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When I finish, I lean forward yeah, and almost do a kegel exercise and that last little two, three drops come out and be like yep, now I'm done.

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You walk around smelling fresh all day.

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I don't really, but a little random, I have to think, so a little random farts that happen sometimes you say the random farts, okay, nobody told.

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Well, I think part of it is because things you used to be able to eat you can't eat anymore.

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Rated as much like you know, even us, we had lunch earlier today.

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I had to run upstairs and go to the bathroom Like what is my body doing?

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Something.

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I ate said nope, Anything else.

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You wish someone had warned you.

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Just that it's hard to get the weight off after a Sunday, Seriously like I just had no idea.

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I mean, I was had no idea yeah.

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I mean.

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I was always 105 pounds.

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They used to call me olive oil and then one day the weight kept.

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Really I hated it because I always had hips.

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It was a little skinny thing with hips.

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She was slim, fit.

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I had these hips because the kids used to tease me.

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The boys used to tease me, the same boys they loved it.

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You didn't know, I didn't know.

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So I was always 105 pounds, this little old thing, right.

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And then one day you wake up and this weight is here and you can't.

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I mean, I used to.

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I don't know if anybody remembers this.

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This used to be this stuff called weight on.

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Did you used to drink so you could gain?

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weight Like protein.

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It was like a place it was called, so I just.

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I wish you could give it back I know, right.

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Like nobody ever said this is going to happen at a certain age.

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Make sure that you, you know, run or work out or do something.

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You just, I just assumed that I was going to be where I was at.

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You're going to be a hot girl forever.

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You still a hot girl.

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I'm still a hot girl.

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You see her cut her eyes at me.

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I'm still a hot girl.

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You still a hot girl.

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It is harder.

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They don't got these hips, but you know I just wished that somebody would have said you know, this is called a fupa and all of that stuff.

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Like nobody told me any of this.

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Okay, I'm going to steer you a little different direction.

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Look, don't look at us, don't judge us, mo, and it might just be me.

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I know every woman is different, I know, I know every woman's body is different, but you remember when you used to wet the whole bed when did that stop?

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when did that?

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I think it depends on the person, honestly he's still young, he's been on the person messing with the women that still went up the whole bed.

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When did that stop and what happened?

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to it right person?

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Have you?

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Yeah, no, the right person will.

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But if you just looked at me and you went the floor.

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I can't waste it for everybody, but but also, too, if you're not sexually active as often as you used to be.

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They also say, if you don't use it, you lose it, so you know well run straight yes, we say the way we just say the well, well, run straight that is gonna dig a little deeper.

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The last time that I did get some and it wasn't all that long ago I had to start a test to see if she still worked.

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I had a hot flash in the middle.

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See, that's what I just said.

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But the funny thing was he felt it oh shit, that he was like what's going on.

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Oh my God.

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He probably loved that hot flash.

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Yeah, because it was warm.

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It made you warmer.

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First of all, it's already warm.

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Thank you it made it warm, but no, it was hot.

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It wasn't warm, it was hot.

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He felt how hot my body got at the time.

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He was kind of inside.

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That's what I mean.

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They were trying to cook a what they liked, that feeling, that's a hot flash.

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She was like oh my God, look at you.

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He felt it, he felt how hot my body instantly went from this to this.

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Yeah, I was burning up and like we had to stop, give me a minute, my temperature come back down.

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But at the time we were in the act and he felt he literally felt it how hot I got internally.

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Trying to make sure this is clean.

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You're definitely a hot girl.

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Trying to make sure this stays on the cleaver.

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That's a hot yes, A hot girl Look at her.

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Now you had the man trying to comment.

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Can I try it out?

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It was more than just a flat no, it was hot.

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So does sex get better than when you get older?

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I think so, I absolutely think so, no inhibitions.

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Yeah, we're not just doing a mister.

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Thing.

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You know the things that you don't know you turn.

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Put your leg up there.

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Grab your ankles.

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No, you're not.

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No, you're not.

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You're not Unfiltered.

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No, I think it does.

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Because, like you, said you know, you've gotten to a point where you know your body, you know what you like, you know what you don't want.

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And to me, I think it is more enjoyable and you can verbalize what you like, what you don't like, the things that when you're younger you don't know, kind of conditioned to just be like.

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Well, whatever they want.

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I don't know.

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I was never like that.

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Sex was never like that for me.

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Well, no, it may not be like that for you.

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What I'm saying is that's what girls are basically taught for the most part, I want to share something with the gang out here.

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Yeah, I have something to share.

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Oh, you done wrote something.

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Yeah, uh-huh.

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Okay, let's see what we got.

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And this looks so old and dated that I printed it out Instead of it on your phone.

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It could have been on my whole phone, but I typed it on the computer in this print.

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I've been in work mode, I've been going crazy at work, so anyway, okay, don't mind my big piece of paper, okay, okay.

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So I said you were something that happened to me.

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A little late, I must say.

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You came with a gush in a uh and I tried to pray you away.

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What the just happened and why is it so bad?

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I told my grandma and she stated girl, let me go get you some pads.

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This is a part of life and what makes you great.

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You're the giver of life.

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And there's much more at stake.

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We have birth nations and created wars.

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These two of these baby are the givers and receivers of much, much more.

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Now I got tired of you and I was seriously over it, went to the doctor and said, sir, please, snip, snip, I don't want her no more.

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My childbearing years are done and just like that, in 2020, my new journey begun.

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I parted ways with old girl and I must say, I was feeling great.

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But there was one more thing around that corner, one more thing to negate.

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She reminded me of an old song and, ooh, her ass couldn't wait.

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She waited patiently and quietly grinding at the gates oh, I'm coming.

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And she wanted her applause.

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She walked into the room and the men the men, of course coming to a theater soon near you, damn I'm a rapper now we need you to perform it, come, come on no listen.

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Why are you playing?

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Uh-oh, what is that?

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Lou.

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She got little Lou down there.

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Little Lou, come on.

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Where's little Lou at?

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Little Lou, baby, come on.

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That was so good.

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I like it, I like it.

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So we're talking about periods and then a pause.

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Y'all Now keep in mind.

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I sent the text out about 11 o'clock last night, so you wrote that at 11 o'clock last night you did.

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You did, got skills, got bars.

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The talent.

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Bars baby, that was good though.

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That was really good.

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Copyrighted.

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Really good, you said.

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around the corner was the menopause and for those who know where I'm going y'all know where I'm going.

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Yes, I tried going.

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Y'all know where I'm going because I tried to tell my boo thing like what a lot of people underestimate the power of the present moment.

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Yes, because it's in this moment where you can unglue yourself from what has happened and what has been and the cycles going on.

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It's where you can really make the decision, the actual choice of how do you want to feel.

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Where do you want to go, say that again.

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Say that again.

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It's in this present moment where you can make the decision of how you want to feel yes, where do you want to go?

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Yes, and then you get the resources or the pieces in place to make that happen.

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You want to feel happy.

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Okay, what makes you happy?

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If you don't know the answer to that, then okay, we do some homework there.

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All that happens in the present moment.

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There's a lot of noise.

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What happened before is real.

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The people in your life that trigger you are real.

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Yes, all of the stressors are real.

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Yes, yes, yes there are noise, that you have to set limits.

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If you can, take breaks away from it, if you can, and just make a decision that this part or this part of the day or this hour I'm going to be here, where's here, here's where my feet are and wherever my mind tries to leave, I'm going to bring that little puppy back and say okay we're going to sit here and do the work that I need to do so that I can be okay.

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You started off with your little rap and everything it's a poem.

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It's a poem.

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Did y'all write anything or y'all have anything prepared for y'all cycle?

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I did throw this at y'all in the wee hours of the night last night.

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I have a little obituary.

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Oh, she's going to wrote an obituary, good boy.

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Okay, let's see what we got, oh my gosh.

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Let's see what we got.

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This is my Aunt Flo obituary.

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Okay, aunt Flo, come on, aunt Flo, that was her name.

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That was her name too.

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Come on Flo.

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Okay.

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With a mix of relief, mild annoyance and a few celebratory chocolates, we announce the departure of our dear Aunt Flo.

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For decades she visited us like clockwork, arriving uninvited, demanding attention and occasionally making a dramatic entrance with cramps, mood swings and an insatiable craving for all things chocolate, and sometimes sweet and salty stuff too.

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Offload's visits were never short of dramatic.

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She was a bit like that guest who shows up at the worst possible time, stays for several days and uses up all the hot water.

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She was the queen of unpredictability, sometimes early, sometimes fashionably late, and always prepared to throw a surprise curve ball, like appearing during a long awaited vacation.

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Now, as we honor our dearly departed Aunt Flo, we celebrate her ability to teach us important life lessons perseverance, a surprising level of patience and the necessity of carrying an emergency tampon and stash of painkillers at all times.

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Rest in peace, aunt Flo.

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We may not miss your timing, but we'll always remember the chaos, the humor and the many, many trips to the store.

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Rest easy, old girl.

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Rest easy.

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Rest easy.

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I like that.

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Rest easy, that is rude Rest easy.

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You know that reminded me of at work, how we were saying you had to have pads stashed everywhere in your car, and at work in my little drawer I had a little jazzy like little pouch that I stabbed, you know, and so I'm like and I have to grab and try to hide it, yeah and walk through the office and I was like, oh, this is just so terrible.

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Girls get the tampon put in bra on.

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Right, it's like we have to be so discreet and they don't sell.

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You remember they used to sell the pads and tampons in the bathroom, oh yeah.

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But sometimes even in corporate situations, they would have them in the bathrooms, but I guess they just got tired of stocking them.

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What?

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about going to the grocery store and buying them.

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You got this big box, yeah, and the guy behind you is like He'd look in and be like yeah shut up, sir this is how you got here.

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You better be happy, I'm wearing them thank you, you better be happy I'm wearing them.

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This also brings me to a story hygiene and your period.

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Oh yeah, some people you can smell.

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Okay, god forgive me and I pray this young lady is not watching, but it is a true story.

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Um, I used to take I don't want to go into a whole lot of detail, but I had a friend who she had an older parent, and you know, um, first of all, that we were born what 70s, 60s, 70s, so for her to have an older parent, her parent was probably maybe what 40s or not even 40s, um, yeah, 40s, 30s.

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So times were different then than even they were for our time.

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So she was raised, and she's my age.

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She was raised not to get into water yep, I've heard that before at all.

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We don't get into water when you're on your cycle, because that's what they believed the generation before us.

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You do not submerge yourself in water.

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So we would take, we would take classes.

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We would take this class after work that involved us dancing and sweating and stuff, and there would be the smell that would come up in the room, that I would smell and I remember coming out of class all the time be like god don't know who is that, because it's you know it's a room full of women, you don't know who it is, or whatever.

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And one time, um, we went to class, went to class together, and she needed a ride to her car and and so she got in my car and it hit me and I was like, oh my God, it's my friend, I'm so sorry Because I'm stuck on the not getting in water.

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You don't shower, wait a minute, you don't shower.

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No, I've heard that you don't scrub at the sink.

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Yeah, but why are you doing this, but no, but why are you doing this?

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Why are you doing this, but no, but why are you doing this?

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Why are you doing this?

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No, because y'all know that's how we do it.

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That's how we do it.

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No, I don't know.

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My mother never said that to me.

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You ain't never took the little sink bath.

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My mother has never in our life allowed us to wash up.

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Have you ever washed up?

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Never, because I passed that on to my son.

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My mother said as long, get everything prepared to wash it to see you could have been in and out.

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So if you were young and you had a dude's house and y'all do it real quick no, I usually take a shower.

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I jump in the shower that they parents house come on first of all, what y'all in and they parents house, stephanie nasty little hot, I wasn't doing all of that, Stephanie.

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You didn't live until you snuck into somebody's house.

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Yeah, I wasn't doing all of that, stephanie.

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We had to do the little wash off.

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Well, again, I can tell you all yeah, you have to.

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Of course I'm not going to lie and say I've never had the washcloth because we all had the washcloth moment.

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Yeah, the washcloth moment.

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You just hurry and laugh the temporary until you get to the shower.

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Yeah, until you get to a shower.

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Well, if I'm staying at his house, I can shower.

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No, we were Well.

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First of all, y'all were hot asses, I'm sorry.

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Her baby's early At least.

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I wanted to wash them smell fresh.

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For what?

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Because I was leaving To go home and take a bath.

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To walk in shame.

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To walk in shame, that's hilarious.

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Y'all made me forget my story.

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Sorry, the girl didn't wash your ass, basically no, but that's what you were taught.

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That's what you were taught.

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That was the generation before us.

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You've heard it right.

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Why can't you get in water?

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It was one of the old wives tales.

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That's all.

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But her mother taught her that.

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So I remember going home and I told my mom.

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I was like Mom, it was my friend, it's my friend.

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And my mother said, if that's your friend, then you will tell her.

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So I had to tell her.

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You think?

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she didn't know Well no.

00:25:05.345 --> 00:25:17.261
When I approached her and we had the conversation because we were friends and of course, there's a way to tell people with love, yeah, discern and, of course, there's a way to tell people with love discern, not discernment, tact, right, with love.

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You know that there was something going on and I noticed, you know that that it was you, and she was like, oh my god, I'm so sorry, I'm on my period, and I was like, and I didn't understand.

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So I was like, okay, so what does that mean?

00:25:27.499 --> 00:25:29.383
So what does that mean?

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And then that's when she said well, you know, you don't get in the water, you don't.

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And I was.

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I was confused because I had never heard it before you don't get in water.

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And I was like, girl, if you don't get you, a man, so I, I introduced her to a vinegar bath and you know I was like, and she thanked me for it because we were friends.

00:25:50.218 --> 00:25:54.040
You know you said that before, but that's how she was raised man, I'm about to look that up.

00:25:54.060 --> 00:25:55.775
It it must be something religious.

00:25:55.775 --> 00:25:57.163
I don't know why you're saying something.

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I don't know.

00:25:58.077 --> 00:26:01.027
It's just an old wives tale and I want to know where it came from.

00:26:01.450 --> 00:26:03.079
That you do not, and I wonder if it's like cultural.

00:26:04.920 --> 00:26:13.124
That's like, yeah, I'm going to have to research that this is an African-American black woman, religious or it's just people did it.

00:26:13.144 --> 00:26:14.605
If someone please comment.

00:26:15.367 --> 00:26:20.602
If someone please tell me the origination of that, why, yeah, that you don't get in water?

00:26:20.642 --> 00:26:22.846
so confused but the hygiene.

00:26:22.846 --> 00:26:32.160
And then I've had another incident where, um, first of all, you already know when we go to events and stuff with, the women's line is always so long.

00:26:32.160 --> 00:26:35.708
Oh yeah, and this was back in my clubbing days.

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I used to love to party.

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Everybody cute and I hate to say it, it was always that real, real cute one that it seemed like all the dudes wanted that you would come behind them in the bathroom.

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I don't like to stand in lines and unless I seriously have to go, I will hold it.

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Because I don't like to smell everybody before me.

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Everybody have to go.

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I will hold it because I don't like to smell everybody before me Everybody's hygiene ain't the same.

00:26:59.107 --> 00:27:00.555
Everybody's hygiene ain't the same.

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When they're in there, they don't dispose of things like they're supposed to.

00:27:05.967 --> 00:27:15.242
I've gone into the bathroom and had to pee and walked right back out just because I didn't want the person behind me to think that smell was me.

00:27:15.242 --> 00:27:20.579
That ain't me, I've done that, I've done that, I've done that, like yeah, I'm sorry.

00:27:20.619 --> 00:27:21.763
Yeah, I'm just waiting.

00:27:22.496 --> 00:27:26.884
I'm going to hold out until everybody go and I'll come while the show is happening and stuff.

00:27:26.884 --> 00:27:27.960
I'm just going to miss something.

00:27:28.194 --> 00:27:39.296
OK well, let me remind real quick, and we're going to wrap this up.

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Look, we done sat here and had a whole conversation about our period.

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Okay, dear period girl, we done for real this time.

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You've been showing up uninvited for years and I finally had enough.

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I don't know who told you we was in a lifelong situationship, but, baby, I'm free now.

00:27:51.923 --> 00:27:57.275
Yes, yes, first of all, I can finally wear white Without feeling like I'm playing Russian roulette.

00:27:57.275 --> 00:28:00.404
No more side eye in my pants all day.

00:28:00.404 --> 00:28:02.575
No more emergency jacket Wrap around.

00:28:02.575 --> 00:28:05.002
I'm strutting in my white with confidence.

00:28:05.002 --> 00:28:06.621
Now, period not included.

00:28:06.621 --> 00:28:13.055
And let's talk about the way you used to Block my blessings, specifically in the bedroom.

00:28:13.055 --> 00:28:19.395
Every time I was trying to get some here, you come with your drama.

00:28:19.557 --> 00:28:26.974
You was the biggest cock blocker in my life and I'm not gonna lie, I resented you for it.

00:28:26.974 --> 00:28:32.990
Oh, and I'm so glad I don't have to carry them raggedy tampons in my purse.

00:28:32.990 --> 00:28:38.105
No more you ever had one of those things fall out in front of a fine man at the checkout line.

00:28:38.154 --> 00:28:41.204
That's why when you said that, I started laughing Embarrassing.

00:28:41.204 --> 00:28:43.683
So now my purse is classy and tampon free.

00:28:43.683 --> 00:28:49.561
Classy like me, and don't even get me started on them.

00:28:49.561 --> 00:28:56.155
Busted period panties, you know the ones Faded, stretched out, looking like they've been through a war girl.

00:28:56.155 --> 00:28:57.740
I threw them in the trash with you.

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Yep, I'm back in my sexy, high-cut lacy drawers living my best life cheeks sitting real pretty.

00:29:10.580 --> 00:29:11.542
So yeah, it's been real.

00:29:11.542 --> 00:29:12.545
It's been real toxic.

00:29:12.545 --> 00:29:13.846
I's been real toxic.

00:29:13.846 --> 00:29:17.339
I wish you well, but I'm good and I'm over it.

00:29:17.339 --> 00:29:22.883
Me and my hormones are still trying to figure out some things, but at least you're gone, so there's no love loss.

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This is from a grown ass.

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Fine ass free ass woman.

00:29:30.782 --> 00:29:32.645
Yes, good job Good job.

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Y'all know, y'all crazy.

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Thank y'all for joining me on this one.

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This is Legra, with Timeless and Unfiltered.

00:29:39.575 --> 00:29:42.221
This is Stephanie, this is Cherise and this is Evanya.

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We are spilling the tea on midlife one laugh at a time.

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Bye, thanks for watching.